Interview listenting is a process that requires work for most people. In conversations, we get anxious about our thoughts or experiences on the particular topic or even a topic we want to share and want to input. I find that it is an area that I need to stay focused on and continuously improve on. When in conversation, I am always waiting for a pause and ready to interject my thoughts. I have found that I am very anxious and when the person I am in conversation with talks slow or has a lot of pauses, I take that opportunity to input my thoughts. I have three sisters and when we get together we get excited and want to share our stories, it takes great patience to listen and wait your turn, especially for me. I tend to be the "talker" too much and have realized this over the last several years. Now that I am aware of it, I concentrate and actively focus on listening and keeping my mind on the subject of conversation.
The class exercise to sit quietly for one minute and listen to the other classmate talk was difficult for me. Upon doing this, I realize that I have a need to at least interject a "yes" or "no" feedback or simple comment, just to let the other person know I am tuned in to the conversation. I wanted to ask questions about the topic of conversation.
Being a detailed person, I am always asking questions and curious about the details of the topic of conversation or other subjects. Listenting is an art and requires me to be actively aware of my conversations and is a constant work in progress. I have found it makes a more pleasant environment when I listen more and talk less.
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